Friday, July 20, 2018
I recently encountered two episodes of racism. They were subtle, but still
The first incident occurred while I was in a fitting room. There was a man
with his wife and young son and I noticed the man kept looking at me oddly.
I thought maybe we knew each other or something, but that wasn't the case.
A few minutes later they all went in a fitting room together, and I kept hear-
ing their son say "White power! White power! White power!" over and over
again. Not one of his parents told him to be quiet or stop. Their little boy
looked about four years old, and it's sad that he has been taught to hate. I
hope one day he will grow up and realize that hating someone because of
their color is wrong.
The second incident happened when my sister, mother, and I went into a
small store to shop, and we were totally ignored by the two women who
worked there. Not too long after we walked in, two Caucasian ladies en-
tered the store, and one of the associates said,"Hi, if you need anything
just let me know." About five minutes later, two more non-colored women
came in and the associate said 'hi' to them too. My mom, sister, and I con-
tinued to walk around the store for about ten more minutes. At one point,
we were about a foot away from the workers, and we still didn't get a 'hi',
or even eye contact. Although we were going to buy some stuff we decid-
ed not to, because those racist women didn't deserve our business.
If you're a racist you're hurting yourself.
You're taking a toll on your very own health.
Your hate will eat you up inside.
It will make you weak.
It will make you want to die.
Hate should be eliminated.
One day you'll realize...
Hate is overrated.
Thursday, April 5, 2018
It's hard to believe, but some people have no idea how they appear to
others. For this reason, I've created a list for those people who don't
realize or don't understand how they may be making themselves unlikable.
8 Actions That Can Make You Unlikable
1. Being rude to people in service industries: waiters, retail associates,
cashiers, flight attendants, etc.
2. Always asking people to loan you money
3. Constantly bragging about what you have
4. Not being trustworthy
5. Creating drama all the time
6. Not saying 'please' and 'thank you'
7. Frequently being late
8. Putting people down
Thursday, November 9, 2017
I've been on social media for awhile, and Instagram has some of the least
loyal followers. People will follow you there a lot quicker than other forms
of social media, but they will also unfollow you almost as fast. I'm still try-
ing to figure out this Instagram game. When people follow me I expect some
of them to disappear, but the numbers are so dramatic on Instagram. I like
the beauty and the visual component of Instagram, but let's be honest...
A lot of people on Instagram are just fake. About a year ago, I wrote about
the four types of social media followers: Genuine, Snobby, Greedy, and
Casual...but on Instagram, some of these followers take following to a
whole new level.
5 Examples of Useless Instagram Followers
1. Fake Fan Followers: People who like a lot of your photos hoping
you'll follow them, but when you don't, they follow you and after you
follow them they unfollow you.
2. Promotional Followers: People who follow you so they can expose
you to their product, and after you follow them they unfollow you.
3. DM Followers: People who follow you only so they can direct
message you to try to get you to buy something from them, and then
they unfollow you.
4. Stalk Followers: People who unfollowed you, but when you post a new
photo they like it or comment, even though they don't follow your account
5. The Follow/Unfollow Followers: People who follow you, they unfollow
you, and then they follow you again.
Monday, August 14, 2017
A couple weeks ago, I read an article about a white girl who has uncombable
hair syndrome. I thought it was a joke, but it wasn't. At adolescence a lot of
children outgrow their uncombable hair syndrome, but I can tell you as a
black person it never leaves.
I still can't believe that this kind of hair in non-blacks is considered a
syndrome. My hair has been uncombable since I can remember. When I
was a young child, I had my hair pressed, so it would be straight, and that
made it easy to comb. The only drawback (aside from having a hot comb
being pulled through my hair) was as soon as my hair got wet it was uncomb-
able again. When I was 11, I got a Jerry Curl. The Jerry Curl required hours
of my time. At first I had to have my hair shampooed. Then it was chemically
straightened, rinsed, rolled on perm rods, drenched in processing lotion, rinsed
again with the rollers in, and rinsed without the rollers. And then I had to spray
curl activator on my hair every day. After awhile, my hair was so over proc-
essed from the Jerry Curl that it looked lifeless. A couple years later I got a
relaxer, and it straightens the new growth only, but when it was put over my
Jerry Curl most of my hair fell out. After my hair grew back, I continued to get
relaxers, but I don't like those either. Sodium Hydroxide, the main ingredient
in most relaxers, is also the main ingredient in drain cleaner. That doesn't
sound safe does it? I've been getting relaxers for years, but I don't want to get
I was never taught to love the hair I was born with, but now I'm going to find
out what it's like to love my hair without pressing it or using chemicals to
Monday, August 7, 2017
I don't dismiss psychiatrist or psychologist, but they don't always know
how it feels to be going through what you're going through.
When I was a child I was mean and unhappy, so my parents took me to
therapists. My father said that when I talked to therapists I told them what
they wanted to hear, and when we'd get home I'd go right back to being the
same way. I only remember one therapist...As I sat across from this guy, he
tossed a thick hardback book down on the table in front of me and yelled,
"You need to read this!" I don't know what book it was, but I think he was in
need of some therapy too.
My low self-esteem was making me crazy. I think if I would've had someone
to talk to who had recovered from low self-esteem, that person could've given
me some advice on how to like myself and how to be happy.
I think sometimes you need to speak with someone who knows how it feels
to be in your situation. If you've been abused, talk to a therapist who was
abused, and improved their life in spite of the abuse. If you have a drug
problem, talk to an advisor who was once on drugs, but now has a sober and
healthy life. If you're being bullied, find someone who was bullied who was
able to lift their self-esteem...But if you can't find someone to talk to who
has had your unique issue you need to talk to someone who will listen to
you who has a kind heart. Talking to anyone is better than talking to no